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Three tips to reduce the emotional toll of divorce on children

On Behalf of | Feb 20, 2024 | Child Custody

Divorce is challenging for the entire family, especially when children are involved. Parents must navigate the emotions that come with the end of a romantic relationship while still maintaining an amicable parenting partnership with their former spouse. Children struggle with navigating their new family structure and knowing where they fit in.

Thankfully, you are not alone.

Many families have gone through this same situation. Although the experience is unique for each family, the lessons learned over decades from those navigating this same type of situation can provide important information. Information you can use to help find the best way to ease the transition into post-divorce life for your family.

Tip 1: Find effective communication strategies

Open and honest communication is important to help children cope with divorce. It is necessary to maintain age-appropriate conversations and discuss the situation with your children in a way they can understand without overwhelming them with details.

Reassure children by ensuring they know that both parents will continue to love and support them.

Tip 2: Provide a sense of stability

Children are more likely to cope when going through significant changes if they have a sense of stability. It helps to keep daily schedules for meals, school, and bedtime as regular as possible.

Parents can also work together to maintain consistency in rules and discipline between two households.

Tip 3: Tailor legal plans to meet your family’s needs

Divorce is a legal process and parents will need to decide matters like custody and child support. If planning to co-parent, aim for a custody agreement that provides stability and meets the children’s needs. When possible, avoid discussing court matters or displaying conflict in front of the kids.

It is also important to come up with a financial arrangement this is fair and helps meet the children’s needs. This can include the cost of educational and extracurricular needs. For older children, it is also important to discuss the possibility of college and the associated expenses.

Divorce will affect children, but you can help manage the extent of its impact. By communicating effectively, creating stability, understanding the legal implications, and reducing legal strain, parents can help their children adjust more comfortably to the changes. Remember that the way you handle the divorce can set the tone for your child’s adaptation and emotional health. Keep their needs in mind as you navigate this transition.